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An Open Letter to Pediatric Practitioners

Dear Doctor, One of the toughest things, we as trauma mamas deal with, is handling professionals. Very rarely do we find a professional who truly wants to partner with us for the benefit of

Acceptable Consequences for Connected Parenting

One of the biggest misnomers for parents when they first encounter trust-based or connected parenting is that it seems like there are no consequences. It feels too permissive. This is actually the reason I

Finding the True-Self of a Child

When we welcomed three, unrelated adolescents into our home–all at one time, all from another country–it didn’t take long to figure out that one was Fight, one was Flight, and one was Freeze. Flight

Three Reasons Why Mindfulness Benefits Parents

We hear a lot about mindfulness these days. At its core, mindfulness refers to the ability to bring conscious attention and awareness to one’s present experience with non-judgment, acceptance, and compassion. A growing body

5 Truths for Parents

Here are some truths I often tell to the middle aged gal in the mirror. She tends to need straight-forward, blunt talk to gain the clearest understanding. Too many words, while well-meaning, and often

The Ultimate Yoga Resource List for Adults

Click here for the resource list for children. This list provides adoptive parents yoga and mindfulness tools to 1) increase their personal well-being and decrease their risk of caregiver burnout and secondary trauma; 2)

The Ultimate Yoga Resource List for Children

To see the list for adults, click here. This list contains yoga and mindfulness resources that address one or more common needs of adopted children: Family bonding and attachment Awareness of internal states and

Book | Trying Differently Rather Than Harder

Choosing Joy in the Adoption Journey

He stood there looking at me with pale, icy blue eyes, staring as if through me. He clutched the meager selection of clothing he chose for the one small duffle bag of possessions he

Dealing with Overwhelm

I often refer to the experience of parenting kids from hard places as ‘deep end of the pool parenting.’ Most of us were fairly well prepared for kiddie pool parenting or even swimming lesson