Research on everything from body language to how our food is plated supports that our perception of reality matters. The same is true for how we think and talk about our children. At the frustrating moments, it’s easy to remember all of the negative behaviors. When we’re venting to social media using a mobile device, it’s easier to tap out my “challenging kid” instead of the person-first “my child from a hard place.” Trust me. That’s me.
However, as I rub shoulders with folks who are way more compassionate than me and I am mindful about my sales, marketing, and business training, I know that a shift in how I perceive my children from hard places, how I allow myself to talk about them, could have a powerful, positive impact on my family.
I still think there is cathartic value to being able to be brutally honest about our challenges and struggles, so choose a couple in-real-life confidants with whom you will allow yourself to be ugly-honest.
For the rest of the world, script the ways in which you’ll allow yourself to refer to your child.
Here are some phrases and adjectives that may come in handy:
- child from a hard place
- child with relationship trauma
- child with relationship challenges
- making progress
Parenting kids from hard places in a connected way is certainly the most challenging undertaking of my life. I’m fairly certain it could bring many a world leader, accomplished business people, and confirmed saints to their knees. We need all the help we can get and we only really have control over ourselves, so let’s start a mindset revolution.