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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
As parents, we have a natural tendency to reach out to our children when they are anxious, scared, or stressed. What none of us can anticipate is how our children’s anxiety will cause us to feel anxious, helpless, hopeless, angry, or desperate. The next time your child is ridden with anxiety, repeat any of these phrases. You will be surprised that your child will likely mirror your reaction.
Don’t worry – this isn’t a “10 things not to say” post. This is an explanation about something deeper. This is a glimpse into the side of adoption that doesn’t always show up on Facebook feeds, blog posts, and Instagram photos. This is a plea for all of us (adoptive families, friends, and onlookers) to see the full picture – both sides of the story – before making assumptions. And it will hopefully shed light on why we cringe at the “lucky” comment.
When we think of child abuse, we don’t often list abandonment among its definitions. Traditionally, child abuse is selfish misuse of a child, or actively inflicting physical, emotional, sexual or psychological pain. It follows then, that if the parent is completely absent, that they can’t possibly be actively abusing their child, right?