I can remember my mom saying to me, “It doesn’t matter what you look like; I love you the same.” Although her intentions were loving, her actions didn’t allow me to be recognized for all of me — inside and out. Truth is, it did matter that my appearance was different because those very differences affected how others treated me.
It continues to break my heart. My kids, like many others with RAD, don’t lie to try to hurt me. It’s a self-protective behavior to try to control their lives. Their need to control comes from their background of trauma and abandonment.
Sleep affects the whole darn family…possibly the sibling who shares a room, or even in a separate room and of course at least one parent. We ALL need sleep, so when the child isn’t sleeping, it affects the whole family. And the biggest problem is the snowball effect. When any of us do not get enough sleep it impacts mood, behavior, and self-regulation overall. And then as always, the results are magnified for a child with sensory processing challenges. And for the parent of the child, this state of dysregulation (irritability, mood swings, impatience, etc) from lack of sleep impacts that child’s state of regulation as well. It’s a double whammy.