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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
Because they are children, kids often can’t dispel those strong emotions by themselves. They need someone to process and release any pent-up energy. Children who get that help–the sooner the better after the traumatic event or series of events–are much less likely to develop PTSD. Also, PTSD is not diagnosed until a child continues to exhibit troubling symptoms and behaviors for three months after the original event occurred. Now that you better understand the difference between simple trauma and PTSD, let’s look at one more important question.
I know I’m not the only one who feels like this. As I write, I’m also thinking of the thousands and thousands of adoptees and birth parents in my situation. I share their pain and their struggles. I’m sure you do too. I hope you have found healthy ways to release whatever your feelings have about our situation. I will try to respect your thoughts and feelings if we ever meet. I hope we do. But if we don’t, I’ll always know that I’m connected to you because I feel it deeply. I know that SO much of me comes from you. You are a big part of me even if you’re not in my life. And I am also part of you even if I am missing from your lives.
I had given Eli up for adoption the day she was born. The decision haunted me for years. Then, miraculously, we wound up back in each other’s lives. What started as a couple of visits quickly blossomed into close, regular contact. But sorting out our relationship has proved painfully complicated. I gave birth to Eli, but I also abandoned her. Once we reconnected, I thought we could become a family again. But we couldn’t, at least not the way I expected.