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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
This situation may be extreme, but most parents I know have some version of this complaint. It’s a good question: Why don’t kids just do what we say the first time we say it?! And there’s a good answer. Several, in fact.
Moderator note: Watching this demonstration will hopefully help us, as parents, understand (1) to not take our paradigm for granted because our kids may have the opposite paradigm and it will take thousands of repetitions to retrain their paradigm, and (2) brains CAN be retrained with lots of repetition and patience.
To understand why connection is the parenting key, we must first understand a bit about the brain. For a simple explanation, let’s talk in terms of the downstairs brain and the upstairs brain. The downstairs brain, fully functioning at birth, is the primitive part of the brain. This controls the body’s vital functions such as breathing, temperature, heart rate, and balance. This is where our survival center is, where fear and overwhelm send us to fight, flight, freeze, or faint. When we are out of control, our downstairs brain takes over.