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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
I’m going to share a few ways we have learned to address some of our sons’ socially inappropriate behaviors. Although we had not yet heard of a “re-do,” when we began using these interventions, the result is usually our sons trying a situation again- in a socially accepted manner. These are interventions that help OUR children. Maybe they’ll work for yours, but they could reinforce your child’s shame, scare your child, or increase your child’s stress level. I’m confident you know your children way better than others do and can think of interventions, specific to their needs, that are stronger than these.
Many people think the words “tantrum” and “meltdown” mean the same thing. And they can look very similar when you see a child in the middle of having one. But for kids who have sensory processing issues or who lack self-control, a meltdown is very different from a tantrum. Knowing the differences can help you learn how to respond in a way that better supports your child.
And the voices swirl like a churning sea….voices from the adoption community, and theraputic parenting models and attachment theory and all the books I’ve read, and the voices of my past parenting experiences and the voices of each child in my home and of my husband and of my own wounds and fears. And above all, there is the controlling, fearful, rejected, victimized voice of this child…..wailing at me, demanding for me to STOP THE PAIN.