It’s important to understand that it’s not the nature of the event itself that makes something traumatic. It’s really the subjective experience of the child that defines whether an event is traumatic or not.
I’ve talked about our journey a lot here at NHBO, but to summarize… I think about two months after we got home, things started to get really hard for me. That’s when the casseroles and honeymoon ended, and when I felt like a glorified babysitter. When taking a hard look at her delays, I found myself asking a lot of scary “what ifs” and feeling at the end of my rope every.single.day.
Yelling, recrimination and time-outs, they argue, can drive a wedge in the parent-child relationship without any learning taking place. Here, we asked Siegel, a child psychiatrist and clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, and Bryson, a therapist and parenting educator, about the book’s underpinnings. Following is an edited transcript.
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