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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
We must give our children attention—real, focused, positive attention. I’ve found when I spend even ten or fifteen minutes with my children at regular intervals during the day, they are happy to entertain themselves or play positively with their siblings at other times. When our child’s love tank/attention tank is full, then he or she has fuel to feed other positive relationships.
Unfortunately, the above story is not an uncommon plight that adoptive parents face. Though not always leading to a disruption or out-of-home placement, many adoptive families struggle for years to create the peaceful family of which they had dreamed. Regrettably, one of the main barriers preventing such family harmony is one of the least understood when it comes to understanding the plight of the adopted child. The barrier is trauma.
But almost a year later, I’m still at a loss as to how to reach out to my fellow dads and convince them that their wives and their children desperately need them to understand what this is about. Dads, you, and your wife, and your kids are all in the same boat, and your kids are about to drown and your wife is bailing water like mad, and more than anything she wants you to get down on your knees in the cold and the wet and bail alongside her. But you won’t. Maybe, you can’t.