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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
So why write this? Because I have recovered, and I am stronger than I ever was. And I have learned two lessons. First, our traumatized kids need us to be strong – not only emotionally, but also physically. We can’t help them if they can kill us. And Katya almost killed me. If she had, where would my other kids have been? So sometimes, the best thing you can do for your traumatized child is go to yoga. Or go run. Or go riding. Anything to keep your body strong enough to handle the stress. Don’t make the mistake I made in all my action – don’t overlook your own oxygen when you’re focused on landing the plane.
And the second lesson is that Katya ultimately ran away – and is still running away – not because of me, not because of the boy, but because she does not believe she is “worth it.”
Mental health issues may seem like adult-only problems, but they can also have a profound impact on younger minds. In fact, anxiety in preschoolers may lead to physiological changes in the brain, a recent study suggests.
It turns out I was not—am not—alone. A March 2012 Purdue University studysuggests that between 18 and 26 percent of adoptive mothers struggle with post-adoption depression, brought on by extreme fatigue, unrealistic expectations of parenthood or a lack of community support.