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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
Through no fault of their own, many of these children and youth develop aberrant survival strategies following the loss of their voices. Control, manipulation, triangulation, aggression, and violence are among the most common strategies. It is only by developing trust and by giving voice that we can empower these children to relinquish such maladaptive survival skills and learn to use words instead of behaviors to get their needs met.
Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. ~Carl Bard
I share our story not because I’m under any presumptive illusion that my readers are dying to hear the dirt on us or that we’ve done most things right. Rather, I pray and trust that you can relate just a little (or a lot), learn a bit about your own marriage, avoid our mistakes, and find hope in the middle of the hell of raising a child in the trenches of trauma. Because I’ve seen too many adoptive friends’ marriages end in heartache. Too many people struggling to survive. Too many husbands and wives no longer seeing eye to eye. Too many former best friends and lovers despising each other. Enough is enough. And ULTIMATELY, I WANT YOUR MARRIAGE SAVED.