Because your personal attachment style can have great consequences for your marriage partner and children, you may want to become more familiar with your own attachment style. Fortunately, we are not destined to have the same attachment style that we developed as children; we can overcome a less-than-secure attachment style by recognizing the attachment style we now have and taking steps to become a secure adult.
You see a stranger stub her toe and you immediately flinch in sympathy, or you notice a friend wrinkle up his face in disgust while tasting some food and suddenly your own stomach recoils at the thought of eating. This ability to instinctively and immediately understand what other people are experiencing has long baffled neuroscientists, but recent research now suggests a fascinating explanation: brain cells called mirror neurons.
Emotional trauma would seem, at face value, to be a highly individual experience, impacting primarily the person going through the ordeal. However, emotional trauma, fears, and phobias also impact people with close ties to the victim, including their children… even if the trauma happened years before they are born.