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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
Finally, here’s a well-known story I have my Listening Practice students read and actively work with, which dramatically illustrates what that Wide Window might actually look like in the real world. It’s worth reading (or re-reading) and remembering: “Sit down here and tell me about it.”
Friends, I have a confession to make. For months I shouted and shouted for Jacob and Hope. I told you how much I loved them, how I loved Hope for years, how much we desperately wanted them home. We swore we would go to the moon and back if we had to, and then we did. (Ok, ok… we went to Ukraine, but it felt as far as the moon and took about the same amount of time.) We were told dozens and dozens of times how brave we were, how much love we had, how awesome what we were doing was, etc. I saw adoption t-shirts being sold all year with the slogan “Adoption is Love” glistening on the front. I believed it, I believed it with my whole heart. But now I know better…
The goal is to make the woman feel confident in her mothering abilities. If he builds up her self-esteem, Garner hopes, she’ll be more invested and engaged as a mom, and the child will grow up smarter and healthier as a result. Garner bases this chain of events on a spate of recent studies that have shown that supportive parents breed better-off children.
So, now, on top of taking measurements, asking about sleep and food habits, and giving vaccinations, Garner devotes part of the visit to checking up on mom. Particularly if the family comes from a harsh environment or if the mother shows signs of depression, he tells her to make sure “you’re smiling at your baby, you’re being aware of your emotions, and using positive discipline techniques.”