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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
So. You have adopted a new little one, or are about to. Well, parenting is gonna change. No matter your experience with 6 other biological kids, guess what….some things are different. Not all. Not none. And heck, to make it even trickier, those things that need to be different vary from child to child due to different histories for EACH child. But let’s make one thing clear….there are a few UNIVERSAL truths about your newly adopted child that you can apply, no matter the situation. And if this post seems a little harsh that is because it is. These kids deserve nothing less than our 110% and when we don’t follow a few basic efforts from the start then we rob them of what they deserve.
Most of us didn’t go into adoption expecting to parent a child with significant attachment issues or Reactive Attachment Disorder. Even if we adopted an older child who experienced abuse or neglect, or a child from foster care, or a child from one of the many understaffed and underfunded orphanages throughout the world, we didn’t think that our precious child would be one of the ones with long lasting devastating damage from failure to bond.
This life you are now living is not at all what you expected. Every day is hard for your child, and that means every day is hard for you.
What is currently recommended to treat complex trauma and dissociation is a three phase treatment approach. Incidentally, if you’re seeking a therapist for complex trauma a great way to find out if they know what they’re doing is to ask if they use this (or if they even know what it is).