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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
The strong effect of eye contact, as well as unfamiliarity may explain why internationally adopted children often this behavior with parents. Developing the ability for extended eye contact takes family raised babies up to eight or nine months. Although the internationally adopted children arrive at eight months or older, they do not have the same capacity to tolerate eye contact as children who were raised from birth in a family. Thus, teaching these children to engage in eye contact requires a pro-active parent who will very gradually introduce and develop this type of interaction. Part of this gradual process is predicated on recognizing that self soothing and control of behavior (such as touching the television) will not be based on the visual connection between mother and child, as exists with a family raised child. Only after eye contact and the succeeding steps of interpersonal development occur, will calming and control behaviors begin to stem from the visual connection.
How do we break up with perfectionism and let love into ugly moments?
What are WE DOING that WE can change in order to bring about a different response in our children?