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Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads.
Luckily our brains are flexible and can learn to increase its oxytocin response at any stage of life. It takes concerted and sustained effort with a lot of repetition to reset this emotional thermostat. Remember it took three years to build so remodeling it won’t happen overnight. Let’s look at some ways to help reset your child’s thermostat.
For us – we had “traditionally parented” our first children with relative success. We tried it with our children from trauma background – and it was a dismal failure. The more we tried to control them, to manage their behaviors, the more out of control the children and the parents became. We needed a change – and found therapeutic parenting,
Relationship trauma is the kind of emotional and psychological trauma that occurs within the context of relationships. We are biologically wired to seek close and ongoing connection. It’s nature’s way of insuring that parents stay committed enough to children to raise them to adulthood and children powerfully attach to their parents and stick close to them for safety and security. Without this powerful form of bonding, our species would become extinct, baby animals and human children would wander away from parent figures and parents would forget about their young. Our brains and bodies are wired to bond. Understanding relationship trauma requires understanding the depth and strength of these bonds.